When it comes to the best sex toys for men, the first step is getting past whatever’s kept you from using a male sex toy—alone or with a partner—up until now: a mildly Puritan shame about masturbation, the hassle of cleaning up, the fact that the best sex toys for men kinda look like alien appendages.
Or maybe it’s the misguided notion that “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” Following the Malcolm Gladwellian 10,000-hour theory, you feel like an expert in the field. Who needs silicone when you’ve got your hands? A harder, stronger, and more life-affirming orgasm sounds nice, but how much room for improvement from men’s sex toys could there really be?
A lot. The best sex toys do for masturbation what hot sauce does for a couple of perfectly over-medium eggs—take a great thing to whole new heights. Adult toys do things you and your partner can’t, no matter how advanced your yogic practices. And unless you’re Sting, you can’t make your penis vibrate on its own. You’re also going to struggle—by virtue of the limitations of the human anatomy—to stimulate your own prostate, a.k.a. the male G-spot, while simultaneously working the front. That’s where vibrators, prostate massagers, and butt plugs come in.
But we’re jumping ahead. Even if you’re not ready to explore self-guided butt stuff, plenty of sex toys will kick-start your masturbation game from good to great to apologizing-to-the-neighbors. Some of these toys are also great to use with a partner. Or not! The next time you could use a little self-love, give your hands a break and your body a whole new sensation. (Maybe throw one in your Amazon cart the next time you need paper towels.) It’s time to get fresh, and maybe a little weird, with your self-sex. Here are the best sex toys for men out there.
Best Discreet Masturbation Sleeve: Fleshlight Quickshot
While you’re likely aware of the infamous Fleshlight, the first and most well-known male masturbator, you might not know that the manufacturers came out with what they call the Quickshot. It’s smaller than the original, with only 3.5 inches to insert your penis, meaning it (likely) won’t cover the entire shaft. But the perks are that it’s easy to store discreetly, and doesn’t look like a typical Fleshlight, which isn’t necessarily something you want a casual hookup to stumble on.
The Best Lube: Sex Gel Kit
Maybe you wouldn’t consider lube a “sex toy » on it’s own, but a good bottle of lube is essential to the functioning of pretty much all of them. (That prostate massager needs a little help getting where it needs to go, right?) This one is water-based, which means it’s compatible with silicone toys. And the branding looks just like a high-end skin cream (which is usually what Nécessaire offers).
Best Cock Ring: Lelo Tor 2
The LELO Tor does its job simply, and it does its job well. The vibrations are strong. It fits snuggly against the shaft of your penis, but it’s not too tight. The more bulbous top of the toy applies pressure and stimulates your partner’s clitoris. It feels good for you and everyone involved. Pro tip: If you finish first and your partner hasn’t, take the Tor and place it on your middle and ring fingers while you finger her. She’ll likely appreciate the vibrations.
The Best Powerful Cock Ring
This vibrating cock ring works just as well as the Lelo, but operates with a slightly lower frequency rumble. Can’t hurt to have options—it’s like you’re some kind of orgasm sommelier!
The Best Affordable Masturbation Toy: Tenga Egg
Is the Tenga Egg masturbator going to change your sex life? No. Will you use it to masturbate every single time? Absolutely not. But for less than seven dollars a egg, this super-stretchable elastomer sleeve can become one of many tools in your jerk box to switch things up when the old-fashion way starts growing stale.
Best Prostate Massager: Lelo HUGO
While the LELO Hugo is pricey, it’s my favorite prostate massager currently on the market. You tilt the remote to control the strength and location of the vibrations. So if you tilt it to the left, the vibrations will be stronger on the left side. With the Hugo, you can pinpoint exactly where in your behind you experience the most pleasure and focus on those spots.
The Best For Both You And Her: Lovehoney Bionic Bullet
The Bionic Bullet has a little something for both you and her. With two rings—one to wrap around the base of your penis and the other to gently grip your testicles. The result is an amazing hands-free « locked and loaded » feeling, making you ready for a harder and longer sex session. The rechargeable rabbit, which connects to the ring, not only vibrates, but will also stimulate the clitoris during penetration.
Best Non-vibrating Masturbation Sleeve: TENGA Zero Flip
When you open the TENGA flip, it looks like the insides of an alien, but that’s what makes it feel so good. There are various ridges and grooves inside the masturbation sleeve, which allow for different sensations. Few other masturbation sleeves are built like this. Most Fleshlights, for example, are simply smooth inside.
Best For Full-Body Orgasms: Fun Factory Duke Prostate Massager
The Duke isn’t a prostate massager for beginners. It has three separate components that stimulate various highly-sensitive erogenous zones. The first part extends far past your prostate hitting the deep, inner walls on your anus. The second section directly nuzzles against the prostate, and the third and final section hugs your perineum—aka the taint or grundle—that strip of skin that extends between your anus and base of your testicles. With its powerful vibrations, the Duke can cause sensory overload, but in the best way.