To raise the temperature, some are fans of naughty games, others prefer disguises, while others still rely on erotic massages. But when the partners are at a distance, some people sometimes redouble their inventiveness to maintain the desire. Sexting, naked photos, naughty videos … 22% of French people say they have already tried to excite their partner in this way, according to an Ifop survey for CAM4 and Hot Vidéo published in 2020.
« Sexting has a lot of effect on me »
These sensual exchanges are also used to spice up her relationship before a date. « In the sexting, there is what I want to do to him, what he could do to me, in what position, in what place, with what costume why not », explains 32-year-old Virginie.
A way to increase excitement through writing which can be very stimulating for some. « Me, I’m a cerebral, I like words », indicates Cécile, 61 years old. « When it’s done well, when the person writes well, it has a lot of effect on me and I really like sending them sixth and to have his feelings, when he describes to me how he feels « , adds Mia, 23.
These hot texts are sometimes embellished with naked snaps, also known as « nudes ». « I really like sending sexy little sext », explains Cécile. Beyond stimulating her partner, this practice is satisfying on a personal level for Agathe, 26 years old. « I send nudes to learn to love my body too. Because I feel better, because I find myself pretty on my nudes and it’s cool to see it in a pretty picture », she explains.
Nudes : « Awaken the excitement until we meet again »
However, sending naked photos has its limits, especially when they are not consented to. This is called « cyber flashing », which includes in particular « dickpics », in other words photos of penises sent without the consent of the recipient. Mia has never been confronted with this lack of consent, but is not a follower of this practice: « I have already received dickpics, but always granted. I don’t really like it, I don’t find it very exciting », she says.
The fear of the dissemination of these intimate images is also a limit: « Everything that is photo and video, I avoid greatly. I did it a bit, but in general, I blur, we do not see my face, and these are really people I trust very much. , so I do it very rarely actually « , says Virginie.
When they are agreed and shared in all confidence, these naughty exchanges nevertheless allow to spice up the daily life and the life of a couple. « I find it very exciting », explains Marlène, 42, before adding that this allows « to awaken theexcitation until we meet again « .
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